A Day With 'BreadCrumbs’

I heard the word ‘breadcrumbs’ first from tiktok and I was like, ‘there’s a word like that? there are people called that?’. Now, for those unaware of what this word means or the people called this - people who are called breadcrumbs are people who give you bits of just enough attention and time to keep you interested and make you think they are interested too but they don’t actually have the intention of being committed to you. They enjoy the attention and care you give them and they try to manipulate you into staying and not leaving them.

Bread crumbling is actually an emotional thing. You’re there hoping you and this person will finally get to be together but your hopes keeps getting crushed over and over again. They give you just what you want to hold onto them, convincing yourself to stay. My dear, they’re bread crumbling you.

These sets of people called breadcrumbs are just really selfish people who only care about how they feel. They don’t want to give out much love but expect and enjoy being loved and cared for. They emotionally and mentally drain you out and you are left carrying your own weights and theirs combined.

Someone said they do it out of self-protection. They start to give less of themselves so it won’t hurt that much if people leave them. But what’s the point? Someone is consistently investing time and efforts with you and you think they wouldn’t leave when they see you don’t do the same?? Jokes on you

They are just time wasters. They always want to maintain contact with you by telling you things you want to hear. ‘Yenyenyen, you know how important you are to me’. Bullshit! Nothing but bullshit!

Bread crumbling can take place in a relationship as well. They tell you they love you and see a future with you but never put you in any of their plans or make any efforts in letting that come true.

No one deserves crumbs. Whether in a relationship or situationship or whatever ship it is. No one deserves to be used a means to end someone’s loneliness. It’s cruel and pathetic.

Always set boundaries if you feel you’re being bread crumbed. Or call them out! Drag them by their legs and heads. Tell them bluntly how you hate how they’re being inconsistent with communicating with you. If they don’t change. Leave. Always leave because you matter too.